Today, I want to share with you guys something different.
A little bit about confidence and jealousy.
Two completely different topics but they relate in a way. I want to start sharing more personal topics on the blog that will help inspire you beautiful ladies. There’s so much out in the world besides hate, jealousy, and envy. I’ve mentioned this before and I’ll say it again, I wasn’t the happiest with my image, my body and I hated my hair and I looked at the other girls and felt very jealous of what they had. The real beauty comes from within – that’s called confidence. Noticing and understanding your true worth, without comparison.
Why do people feel like they’re not good enough? Or pretty enough? Or they see something on someone and automatically get jealous and want it?
The first step is being aware of what it is that you don’t feel confident about, then doing something about it.
In high school, I had just moved from another town so I didn’t know anyone and had to pretty much start fresh with making new friends. I found myself trying to fit into a high school that was filled with a variety of different personalities – nerds, leaders, socialite, bullies, clowns, etc. I found myself trying to fit into a school by changing who I was and that meant doing things that I wasn’t 100% sure about but did it anyway just to fit in. For example, I would straighten my hair because 90% of the girls in my high school had straight hair. I felt like I was the odd ball out because my hair wasn’t as pin straight as I would hope. Honestly, ladies, this is what made me unique. Or trying out for the cheer leading team because I thought that would guarantee me a spot at being popular. I look back at this today and those females that were ‘popular’ or whatever and I am so glad I didn’t take that route. Who am I to judge or compare my life to anyone though? I was comparing myself to females that I can’t even relate to.
In college, I felt like this was my way of really figuring out myself, my style, where I saw my future, and really understanding where I saw myself in a few years. I still lacked confidence, didn’t really like my weight, I didn’t think I was smart enough, I had people make slick comments here and there that really put me down. One thing I discovered was that I lacked confidence, I was looking at others and what they had and felt like I needed to fit a certain criteria.
JUSTFAB heels (old) (similar!)
Being true to yourself.
Okay so maybe you aren’t as confident as you would have hoped and that is fine but don’t let yourself down about it. What is it that doesn’t make you feel confident or good about yourself that leads to comparing yourself to someone else? What makes you think that (she) or (that) is what you need to be like? What if that person was saying the same thing about themselves and looked at you for inspiration or liked something about you that they lacked in themselves? How would that make you feel? (let me know in the comments section!)
One Step at a time.
I figured out exactly what I was jealous about and where I lacked confidence. I didn’t like my body, hated my hair, and felt I wasn’t smart enough. What is the true meaning of the word ‘enough’ and what are we exactly comparing ourselves to? Someone that is intelligent in their own field? Yes, clearly they are smart in their own field, something that they’ve been doing or practicing for X amount of years. Why are we comparing them to ourselves? You’re good at doing what you do, and if you don’t know what that is, figure it out! I found my path in business and fashion, and I’m good at it. I’m not the smartest and that is fine, I hope to eventually get to where I want to be. We shouldn’t let ourselves down because we don’t know something as well as someones else does.
Did you guys enjoy reading this blog post? Stay tuned to find out how I overcame jealously and how I got to where I am today!